My good friend and astrologer, Margaret Sweet MargaretSweet.com – Astrologer,asked me to give some hints about getting in and out of the automobile. I will do this, but first I wanted to share a little bit about astrology and F.M. Alexander.
While studying with Marjorie Barlow, Mr. Alexander’s niece, we broached the subject of astrology. I asked her if she had ever had her chart read. She replied that she had because two of her friends, Joyce Warwick and Joyce Wodeman (both Tauruses) had given her the gift of a reading. I then asked her if she had ever asked Mr. Alexander if he was interested in astrology. She replied that he was interested in astrology. He didn’t reject anything. She went on to tell me that he was really very tolerant in many ways. If you would like to know more about this subject, the Alexander Technique and Marjorie Barlow, I suggest you read Marjorie Barlow and the Alexander Technique An Examined Life In Conversation with Trevor Allan Davies. This is a very inspiring book about her life.
Now let’s look at getting in and out of the car using the Alexander Technique. The operative words here are Watch Yourself. These two words were favorites of my teacher Marj Barstow. When I was leaving Marj for the first time after spending the summer with her, I asked for advice so that I might continue to learn and grow. In those days, there were no teachers in Texas. She looked at me with incredible intensity and said , watch yourself.
I suggest you go up to the car and watch yourself without making any effort to do anything “right”. Just watch what you are doing. You will probably discover that as you reach for the door handle, your neck stiffens a bit and there is excess tension in your hands, arms, torso, legs and even your feet. Watch yourself as you lower your body to get into the car. Ask, what am I doing with myself? Observe. Watch yourself get in and out of the car at least five or six times without correcting anything. find out what your habits are. Remember you can’t do something new if you don’t know what you are doing.
Now just stand in front of the door and inhibit, just pause. Give yourself direction: “My neck is free, allowing my whole head to ease forward and up off the top of my spine, allowing my whole body to follow lengthening and widening.” It is important to be very aware of the activity of the joints in this endeavor. As you open the car door, really look at what you are doing. If you are the driver, you must navigate the steering wheel to get into the car. You might want to turn your body outward and sit first and then swivel yourself behind the wheel. Or, you might want to very lightly hold the steering wheel and the door while you lift the right leg and being conscious of the hips joints, place your right leg in the car first. Be mindful of how your joints work and assist you to have ease and flexibility. Experiment and use your thinking. Learn to trust your thinking.
I teach my students to apply the thinking and experiment. Find out what works for you while you carry out even the most mundane activity. What do you do with yourself while brushing your teeth? While sitting at the computer? Learn to watch yourself.